The anus is a very sensitive area that responds to a lot of different kinds of stimulation. It’s important to find what turns you on before committing to anal play.
Start off slow and gentle with a finger or smaller anal toy. Your anus needs time to relax and get used to foreign objects being put in.
Start Slowly
If you’re a newbie to anal play, or just interested in expanding your pleasure options, it’s important to start slow. It can be tempting to jump straight in with a partner or a sex toy, but that can easily lead to pain and discomfort. Before introducing someone else, try using a lubricant like Astroglide and exploring the area by yourself to figure out what kinds of stimulation make you feel good.
For example, you might find that penetration makes you gasp, but fingering and licking feels pleasurable. You might also be a candidate for the “rider-on-top” position, where the man puts his legs around yours and you rock together.
Many people associate anal play with kinky or unusual fetishes, but it’s something that anyone who has a butt can do. It can even be part of your romantic sexual fantasy to imagine your man fucking you from behind in doggystyle. If you don’t have a partner to practice on, there are plenty of toys and techniques designed specifically for anal use. And as with any sexual activity, remember to use a condom or barrier method.
Take Deep Breaths
Most people think anal orgasms aren’t real, but the truth is that they’re a real thing. It turns out that the anus has a ton of nerves, and stimulating those sensitive areas can cause intense pleasure. The area can be stimulated by touching, stroking, sucking and fucking. Some women describe it as a feeling similar to a clitoral orgasm, while others say the sensation is more of a spread-out wave of pleasure.
For those who want to experiment with anal play, it’s a good idea to start slow and be sure to use plenty of lubricant. You can also try using sex toys specifically designed for anal play like butt plugs and anal beads, and practice positioning techniques with a partner. Of course, a great way to get ready for anal sex is by taking a hot bath or shower and rubbing the go-spot zones. Practicing these things can help you relax, so you can get an anal orgasm when the time comes. Remember, just like any other orgasm, you must be patient and focus on pleasure over pain.
Relax Your Sphincter
Anal orgasms can be triggered by stimulating the inner and outer anus, but the biggest challenge is training the anal sphincter to relax. The anal consists of two rings of muscles: the outer is easier to control, and the inner one is more sensitive. A relaxed anal can easily let pleasure in, but it takes time and practice to learn how to get there.
Start by slowly inserting your finger into your anus until you feel the resistance of the inner sphincter. Keep doing this with different fingers and toys until you can feel your anus relax. Next, try a butt plug or other sex toy that goes up your anus. These come in a variety of sizes and textures, so you can begin with a small size and move up to a bigger one if you’re comfortable.
You can also train your anal to open by stimulating other areas of the body, including the vagina and penis. Some people even experience orgasms from stimulation of the prostate, a walnut-sized gland tucked inside your anus and between the bladder and rectum.
Use Lubricants
The anus does not produce natural lubrication like the penis or vagina, so it’s always a good idea to use lube for anal exploration. Lube helps reduce friction and increases sexual arousal, enjoyment and orgasms. Apply anal lubricant during foreplay, to make anal penetration more comfortable or while using anal sex toys for a safe and sensual experience all round.
Cum is not recommended for anal lube since it may contain sperm and could increase the risk of unintended pregnancy or STI transmission between partners. However, some anal lubes (such as anal numbing lubes) contain ingredients such as lidocaine that can numb anal pain receptors and reduce discomfort during anal play.
When you are ready to begin anal play, choose a water-based anal lube that is long-lasting and will not dry up or be absorbed by the anal skin. You can also try a hybrid silicone lube that is safer than oil-based lubes for use with condoms and has the added benefit of being easier to clean. Some anal lubes are even flavored for extra pleasure.
Communicate
Just like any other form of orgasm, anal orgasms are very individual and personal. It may take a bit of time for one to reach their peak and feel the pleasure, but a lot of people are able to enjoy anal orgasms. Just be patient, open-minded, and willing to experiment to find out what works best for you.
When trying anal play, it is important to communicate with your partner to get them acquainted with your anatomy and make sure you are comfortable in every position. It is also a good idea to wash up before engaging in anal stimulation to be clean and respect your partner.
Remember that you don’t have to stick to anal stimulation only in order to experience orgasms, and it is best to incorporate clitoral, vaginal, and genital stimulation as well. Anal orgasms are very different from other forms of orgasm, and it is important to try out various positions, toys, and techniques to see what works best for you and your partner. Whether or not you can achieve an anal orgasm is up to you and your partner’s chemistry, but if you follow these tips, it might be easier for you to get there!
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