A lot of men panic when their girlfriend never wants to have sex. They try begging, pleading, and even guilting her into it.
However, this is not the best approach. You need to understand what could be causing her loss of desire and take the appropriate steps to fix it.
1. She’s afraid
There are many reasons why your girlfriend might not be in the mood to have sex. One reason is that she’s afraid of getting pregnant or having an STD. It’s not uncommon for people to have these fears, especially if they don’t use protection while having sex. Another possibility is that she’s worried about what you’ll think of her if she does become pregnant or has an STD. She may think that you’ll look down on her or call her a “slut.”
If your girlfriend has these fears, there are things you can do to help ease them. You can start by telling her how much you love and appreciate her. You can also try doing some foreplay to get her in the mood. This can be as simple as kissing and cuddling her. You can even try some oral sex.
Another thing you can do is stop nagging her about sex. Research has shown that nagging leads to less frequent and less satisfying sex. In addition, nagging can make her feel like she’s not worthy of having sex. Women are more likely to be attracted to men who take charge of the relationship.
Finally, you can try to show her that you’re interested in other ways. You can do this by expressing your interest in other activities, such as going to concerts and movies. You can also show her that you’re interested in other aspects of her life by complimenting her on her appearance and other qualities.
2. She’s afraid of getting hurt
She’s been hurt so many times before and she’s hesitant to open her heart again. She’s guarding what she has and will only allow herself to be vulnerable with those who she truly believes are worth it. It’s not that she’s playing hard to get or that she wants to keep you at a distance, it’s just that her heart is a delicate thing that she protects with armor.
Her low libido could be due to some medication she’s taking or she may just be under a lot of stress in her life. If this is the case, it’s important to take steps to help her ease her stress so she can become more open to intimacy again.
It’s not good to nag her or be passive-aggressive about it. This will only further divide the two of you and put her on the defensive. Instead, focus on bringing back her attraction for you by doing things like sending her lots of compliments and showing her how much you appreciate her. This will help her feel more secure in the relationship and will also make her want you more. It’s been scientifically proven that women are turned on when they don’t know where their partner stands (University of Virginia). So, when she starts denying you sex, it’s in your best interest to bring back her attraction for you.
3. She’s afraid of losing you
Some women (and men) find it really difficult to accept that their partners do not always want sex. They believe that if you don’t want to have sex, you’re not attracted to them or you’re not in love with them.
This is a very common belief that leads to sexless relationships and can be very damaging for both parties. Luckily, there are ways to fix this problem. One way is to make your girlfriend feel loved and valued. You can do this by giving her massages, cooking for her, leaving her flowers and messages, or simply telling her how much you love her. Another way to get your girlfriend in the mood is to do some foreplay. This will increase her arousal and motivation to have sex.
You should also avoid nagging her about wanting sex. Studies have shown that nagging decreases a woman’s arousal and desire. In fact, nagging can be so effective at killing her sex drive that it can lead to reduced or even non-existent sex.
Finally, it’s important to remember that every person has a different timeline when it comes to intimacy. Some people are ready to sleep together after the first date, while others need more time to build trust. If you push her to have sex too soon, she’ll likely end up resenting you and your relationship.
4. She’s afraid of being alone
Some people will try to tell you that your girlfriend only wants sex because she’s afraid of being alone. This isn’t true, and it will only make her more resentful of you.
If your girlfriend doesn’t want to have sex, it’s important to understand why. It could be that she’s just not interested in sex, or she may be having sex with someone else. If this is the case, it’s important to address the issue and work on repairing the relationship.
It’s also possible that your girlfriend doesn’t want to have a sex because she’s bored with the sexual aspect of the relationship. If this is the case, it’s a good idea to introduce new types of sexual behaviors and foreplay, or she may simply be waiting for you to be more aggressive.
Another possibility is that your girlfriend doesn’t want to have sexual intimacy because she feels guilty. This is a common reason that women have low libido. It’s often because they were raised by families or cultures that shun sexual interest, or because they feel that it isn’t appropriate for their age.
If your girlfriend’s lack of sex is due to guilt, it’s important to talk about the issue and figure out how to deal with it. It’s also important to remember that physical intimacy is only one part of a healthy relationship. Emotional intimacy is just as important, and can be achieved through things like kissing, hugging, and cuddling.
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