If you find your libido is always high or recently spikes for no apparent reason, it may be a good idea to see a healthcare professional. They can help pinpoint the cause and work on a solution, like medications or hormone therapy.
Many people report finding relief and pleasure by channeling their sexual energy into something creative, physical or spiritual. Popular pursuits include long distance running, yoga and meditation.
1. Talk to your partner
Talking about sexual desire with a partner can be difficult, but it’s important to do so to get to the bottom of any problems. Try to pick a neutral time to discuss it, such as when the kids are asleep or after work. This will ensure that you’re both in a calm state of mind and can focus on the conversation.
Some women experience low libido because of a variety of reasons. For example, a woman who is worried about her weight or feels self-conscious may be reluctant to engage in sexual activity. Try to reassure her that you find her sexy, and it could help increase interest.
It’s also possible that her arousal issues stem from an underlying medical issue. A doctor can recommend treatment or a medication that could help. For example, females who have a very low libido because of menopause or age-related hormone changes might benefit from hormone replacement therapy. Additionally, certain medications, such as birth control, can decrease sexual interest in some people. Asking her doctor if she could switch medications or change dosages might help.
2. Try meditation
A growing body of research suggests that meditation may help to alleviate sexual problems, including low libido. Stress and anxiety are major killers of libido, and mindfulness meditation can help to ease these feelings, allowing people to feel more calm, balanced and in the mood for sex.
Furthermore, meditation can also help to boost levels of the hormone DHEA, which is thought to increase sexual desire in both men and women. Studies suggest that this is because meditation helps to reduce cortisol, which is a major stress hormone that can lead to feelings of anxiety and insecurity.
Moreover, meditation has been found to increase levels of endorphins in the body, which are known to be powerful mood boosters and orgasm-inducers. These brain chemicals can be triggered during exercise, but meditation is an easy and enjoyable way to experience the same effects. This can take the form of a simple daily session, or it could be used during foreplay or sex. This is because focusing on breathing and noticing bodily sensations can distract the mind, which can then focus on more positive emotions like happiness and joy.
3. Try a new activity
Having sexual thoughts is normal, but it’s not OK to let those thoughts interfere with your day-to-day life. If your horny feelings are distracting you, interfering with your work or relationships, or causing you or others distress, talk to a therapist.
There are two kinds of sex drives: spontaneous and responsive. The former is when you feel sexual desire because of something outside your body, such as kissing, dancing, or watching a sexy movie. The latter is when you feel sexy or orgasmically aroused by physical stimulation of the genital area, like having sex or touching.
If you have neither of these, it may be a sign of female sexual interest/arousal disorder (FSIAD). This used to be called hypoactive sexual desire in women, low libido or female sexual dysfunction. It’s a complex condition with many contributing factors, including hormone changes (such as those from menopause or perimenopause) and emotional issues. For example, anxiety and depression can make it hard to get in the mood. Stress is also a libido killer, and you can reduce it by practicing mindfulness, exercising, or getting enough sleep.
4. Try a new food
Whether or not you believe in aphrodisiac foods, some are known to boost libido. Broccoli, for instance, is a natural aphrodisiac because of its high vitamin C content, which aids blood circulation and nerve sensitivity. Try tossing some on your next salad.
Foods that can lower your libido include dairy, processed meats, refined sugar, coffee, and alcohol. Eating more leafy greens, whole grains, and chamomile tea can help decrease horniness.
If you’re taking a medication that’s lowering your libido, talk to your doctor about it. Certain antidepressants, birth control pills, and beta-blockers have been shown to negatively affect hormones that affect sex drive.
It’s important to remember that sexual impulses are normal and can fluctuate throughout your life. But if yours are excessive or interfering with your daily activities, it may be time to seek professional help. You can always work on finding other ways to channel that lust into something more constructive and healthy. Hopefully these techniques will help you get your libido back on track. Good luck! — Madeline Kennedy is a health and wellness writer for Insider, covering everything from mental health to infectious disease. She has a master’s degree in social work from UPenn and has worked as a domestic violence therapist.
5. Try a new medication
For some women, having a low libido is normal. It is also common to have a higher libido at the beginning of a relationship, during puberty, and during certain points of the menstrual cycle. However, if your libido is too high and interfering with your daily life, it may be time to see a doctor.
Certain medications can lower your desire for sex. These include SSRI and SNRI antidepressants; prescription drugs for blood pressure, heart failure, or high cholesterol; and seizure medication. Medications that affect hormone levels and neurotransmitters, such as a phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitors (which increase testosterone levels), can also decrease your sexual desire.
Sometimes a high libido can be a sign of an underlying mental health issue, such as sex addiction or hypersexuality disorder. In these cases, therapy provided by a sex therapist or marriage counselor may be helpful. A sex and relationship therapist can help you learn ways to be more sexless, and incorporate masturbation techniques that will give you a quick release without the need for sex. They can also teach you healthy ways to deal with sexual impulses, and help you find long-term solutions to your horniness.
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